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The Tale of Frank and Larry

A few weeks ago Eric started calling us "Frank and Larry." I laughed out loud when he said that and he explained that he felt like we were two guys working different shifts in a factory. He would get home from work and Larry (that's me) would check out of his shift. I'd tell Frank (that's Eric) when Cora last ate and when she would probably want to eat again and then I'd grab my things and head up to work out, check email, and take a shower. Frank (that's Eric) would take a generally fussy baby until I got back for the next feeding. Of course by then I was exhausted so I would make a very simple dinner for us, feed her, and crawl into bed between 8-9. Frank (that's Eric) would take the next feeding, sometime between 11-12pm. Then he would make sure to get into bed by 12:00 so he would get enough sleep for work the next day. After 12, Larry (that's me), would be back on shift should Cora cry or need comforting before the next feeding.

Frank and Larry are very cordial to each other. They get along and sometimes think they should hang out after work and get a beer, but the problem is they work different shifts. One is always on while the other is off, so for now they try to talk about current events, and work, and plans for the weekend. 

To be honest though, Cora will be eight weeks on Monday and slowly, very slowly, Frank and Larry are seeing more of each other. Heck, they enjoyed a leisurely dinner together only a few nights ago. It's true! Larry (that's me) is also less and less exhausted as Cora starts to sleep for longer stretches at night, so the conversations that they used to have in the evenings have become more personal, more awake, and more authentic. That's a good thing. Heck, maybe Frank and Larry will even go out for a daytime date sometime soon. Nighttime schedules are still too tenuous and can't be messed with, but maybe, just maybe, a weekend date will be in order soon.

Night Frank. Night Larry.

Reader Comments (5)

Ahh! I know those schedules very well. I have two young ones aboard (6 and 3), and my husband works full time, so when he gets home, I have to usually go somewhere without kids, or he comes and gets the kids to take them somewhere while I get something done aboard. And then we have our dinner 'jobs' (I cook, he entertains), he also goes and takes the kids up to do laundry, and then we both work at bedtimes, I cuddle and rub backs, he brushes someone's teeth and finds PJs. By the end of the night, we find a way to say a few words back and forth, but most of the time we just stare at each other and smile. It's funny how you know that you both miss each other, but can't seem to find the time to connect when you're managing a family. It does get easier after that post baby craziness wears off, though. But then they start talking ;)

September 18, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterNicole

It'll settle my dear. We find that once Zach goes to sleep (9pm-ish) we like to stay up and talk and watch grown up movies etc. Even though he is WAY past the waking up again 2-3 hours later stage (he stopped nursing all night around 2.5 years old)... when he was a sprout, we'd all just snuggle down for a few hours, all in bed together, and get in some adult time from 9pm-11pm all together snug in bed talking, watching movies, reading side by side, what have you. The way I look at it, I had 30-some years being all about me and we'll have at least 30+ some more being all about us. We didn't mind giving him what he needed round the clock for 2-3 years.

September 18, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterboatbaby

Ya know just last night, as Marc and I were laying in bed falling asleep, I said to him, "6-12 more weeks of just us and then it won't be the same again for a long time." and he sighed and said "I know." But we don't really. We don't know what the next stage holds, people can tell us but we don't know what it really looks like until we get there.

We'll have to come up with shift names of our own. Bert and Ernie rather appeals to me at this stage.

Thank you for posting this. It makes me go "aw" and appreciate the little time we have left before we're doing what you're doing...

September 18, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAmanda

AAww , it does feel like that some times, IT WILL GET BETTER!
Also, I can't figure out how to get on the keel any more? I got an e-mail and I think it got deleted, Only if "Frank or Larry" can get a break could I get a hint on what I'm doing wrong? Thanks, Kim

September 19, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKim

Thanks for all of the encouragement! Frank and Larry got some nice sleep last night!

Kim, I'll send you an email in case you don't check back here, but all you'll need to do is go to www.thekeel.com and re-register. If you have any troubles with that, let me know. I'm at redcharlotte (at) gmail (dot) com!

September 20, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCharlotte

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